many of you already know, I talk a lot about personal responsibility
in overcoming general anxiety and I believe that none of us
are victims. We are all actively involved in the process of
creating our lives every single day, even our anxiety problems.
even though many people would agree with this statement, it
can be easy to slip back into that old "victim"
mindset from time to time.
great general anxiety disorder tip is to
understand that allowing ourselves to feel victimized by anxiety
strips us of our power. It's much more helpful to throw away
any idea of victimization, and accept 100% responsibility
for our cicumstances--the good AND the bad.
last point can be hard for some people to accept at first.
In fact, it was very hard for me at first when I first got
this tip. I was more than willing to take responsibility for
the good things in my life, but, like many people, I resisted
taking responsibility for the bad things: the anxiety disorder
in general, and my symptoms in particualr. I was so sure,
"it had nothing to do with me."
besides, taking resposibility for it seemed too much like
"beating myself up" and I knew that was counterproductive
to dealing with anxiety disorders in general.
But the idea that we are personally responsible for the bad
things in our lives--even the things we are complaining about--isn't
about blaming yourself. it's about empowerment.
once you "get" this concept, and begin to assume
responsibility for everything in your life, it gives you back
a certain level of control, and you stop waiting for someone
or something outside yourself to rush in and "fix"
the anxiety disorder. Because the fact is, no one can fix
general anxiety disorders. We all have to do it ourselves.
keeping this idea of personal responsibility in mind, let's
talk about what you are putting out into the world. What I'm
talking about here is the balance that exists between what
you are giving, and what you're getting.
you ever thought about how these two are very closely related?
What you get is largely determined by what you give. So if
you're getting anxiety in general, you need to take a good
look at what you were putting out there.
right at this point is where I lose some people. They say,
"This all sounds great, but I haven't seen any evidence
of this in my life--can you prove what you're saying?"
can really relate to this question and the skepticism behind
it. I too felt this way for many years. I didn't see the connection
between what I was "putting out into the world"
and what I was getting back. In fact, it seemed pretty random
when I began to take a closer look at it, I did begin to see
the connection--very clearly in fact between the setbacks
I was dealing with in general, and my anxiety disorder in
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you will think about your own life and your experiences, you
will probably see the connection too. If this concept seems
too "out there" for you, just look at it from a
strictly scientific point of view: "like causes produce
like effects." In other words, "If you keeping doing
the same things, you will keep getting the same results."
And that is not only common sense, it is the standard all
good science is based on.
understanding this concept, what do you need to do to get
more of the results you want and less of what you don't (like
anxiety disorders)? Being the "listmaker" I am,
I have compiled a few ideas to think about. These go beyond
"fixing" general anxiety and into the realm of helping
you live a better life in every area.
Feel GREAT about where you are are right now. Focus on what
is good about your situation and who you are. Remember, it
is easier to improve upon a good situation than to turn around
a bad situation. No where is this more true than in dealing
with general anxiety disorder.
Don't think in terms of lack (what you are missing); think
in terms of going toward good things (a peaceful life), NOT
trying to get away from the bad (anxiety disorder).
Do as many things as you possibly can that make you feel good.
Feeling good is so important, especially feeling good about
yourself. People are naturally attracted to others who radiate
positive feelings about themselves. Anything that makes you
happy will help your life and the general anxiety disorder
in a million ways.
Do things for others when it does not benefit you at all,
and wanting nothing in return (not even a thank you). Help
out someone just to do it--no other reason.
you begin to do this, you will notice an unusual law of nature.
You can not give to others and receive nothing back. It never
happens that way. What goes around DOES come around.
general, the more you turn your attention outside yourself,
the less general anxiety disorders will be an issue you need
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